“How much suffering there is to get through!” -Rainer Maria Rilke. Parenthood. Loss. Reality. My personal experience with an unexplained stillbirth (two days before my due date) plunged me into an abyss of unexpected suffering. Directly due to this experience I have learned the stories of so many who have lost their pregnancies and children. My eyes have been opened to the realities of life. How when we choose to become a parent we really are choosing to ride the fine line of life and death, admitting our position in this universe that we cannot control what happens to us.